INFORMATION ABOUT THE DISCRIMINATION OF FATHERS INCLUDING DETAILS OF WHO IS A VICTIM (FATHER, CHILD, FAMILY), STATISTICS, AND CASES

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Are you a victim of DISCRIMINATION AGAINST FATHERS?

The following lists may support your feelings of being a victim of Discrimination Against Fathers. Click to expand lists.

Discrimination within the family:

  • A spouse or ex-spouse criticizes you in front of your children.

  • You give parental guidance or may reprimand your children and appropriately discipline them but a spouse or ex-spouse criticizes your efforts in front of the children.

  • Your spouse or ex-spouse organizes parties for the children, organizes events, or invites guests to your home during times when you are working or are not available to enjoy your children and bond with them at these times.

  • Your spouse or ex-spouse expects you to do errands, chores, or work instead of spending time with the children.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse sends the children off to camp, girl-guides, boy-scouts, sporting events to prevent you from spending time with them.

  • If your children are girls the mother encourages them to do "girl things" with her instead of with their father.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse  talks about you behind your back in a derogatory manner to your children or to others while your children are present.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse talks in a derogatory manner about other fathers that may be similar to you while she is in the presence of your children.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse talks negatively about fathers in general either to the children directly or to others while in the presence of your children.

  • Your spouse or ex-spouse does not talk to you.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse refuses to work but insists that you work to support the children and her.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse works but keeps the money for "frills" for her and the children but insists that you pay the bills.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse works but criticizes you for not paying the bills or supporting the children.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse accuses you of not letting her work but when you attempt to help her find work she refuses to try.

  • If you are the financial provider for the family a spouse or ex-spouse fails to show appreciation for this.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse criticizes your weaknesses in front of the children but does not show admiration for your strengths.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse displays lack of mercy for your handicaps in front of the children.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse fails to discipline the children to win their favor while you take responsibility to teach your children and attempt to create order.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse blames you in front of the children for being to strict with them.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse makes false allegations to authorities to satisfy her selfish vindictive motives.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse manipulates the minds of your children to say things to authorities that defame you.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse manipulates the minds of your children to do things that cause you stress.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse manipulates the minds of your children to steal from you or find out things that they have no business knowing.

  • A spouse or ex-spouse manipulates the minds of your children so that they believe that either you are not their father or that you are not an authority figure.

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A list of symptoms that you may observe from your children:

  1. Your children misbehave when they are with you regardless of the clear expectations that you have for them and attempt to enforce.

  2. You feel that you are not an authority as a father and your children believe that they are an authority.

  3. Your children make comments that are demeaning to you.

  4. Your children draw pictures of their family and you are not in those pictures

  5. Your children take things that you buy them and you never see those things again.

  6. Your children tell you that you are cheap when you attempt to teach them about budgeting or the importance of money management.

  7. Your children tell you that you are cheap when you don't buy them what they want.

  8. Your children call you a liar when you tell them that you can't afford something.

  9. Your children are more concerned about material things than the love that you attempt to show them.

  10. Your children are more concerned about material things than the values that you attempt to instill in them.

  11. Your children tell you how much they love their mother but don't talk about you in the same way.

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Discrimination by Authorities

  1. When a woman makes an allegation authority figures usually believe everything that a woman says but disregard everything that a man says

  2. Authority figures turn their backs to men when they complain about abuse by women to either children or men.

  3. Through immediate custody women are given the opportunity to alienate fathers from children through parental alienation techniques

  4. Authorities do not understand parental alienation techniques and the symptoms of these techniques such that child responses or statements made to authorities often unduly ostracize still more.

  5. When fathers complain about alienation authority figures do not have the expertise or desire to understand it and even turn the complaint around and blame the father

  6. The behavior of authority figures is often based on preconceived ideas or "age-old" procedures that reflect poorly on the situation at hand.

  7. Authority figures have often stated that their job is not to make decisions but to leave the thinking work to the courts. Because the courts are extremely slow and expensive the process usually decimates time that fathers have with their children causing still further alienation.

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Discrimination by Family Law courts

  1. Courts often spontaneously grant "temporary" custody of children to women based on nothing more than lies and speculation.

  2. This "temporary" custody can last for months or even years.

  3. Fathers often become little more than strangers to the children as the mother manipulates their minds (directly or indirectly) to disrespect their father.

  4. Due to the slowness of court processes and the incompetence of the courts and the related services fathers lose their image in the eyes of their children as authority figures, disciplinary figures and leaders. Children become abusive to their fathers.

 

 

   

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